Dearest blog readers i have a question to pose to all of you. What does it mean to be "hot"? And why does it bother me so when i hear guys say "that chick is so hot,"? I would really like to hear a definition of what it means to be hot. I am learning that the hotness factor is much more important to guys than it is to most girls, at least that is what i have noticed in my day to day interactions. For some reason i hate when people describe other people as being "hot", even though i am guilty myself for using it to describe people. Just the other day i used the word hot to describe Belle (the hottest of the Disney princesses) I have my guesses as to why i hate the word. It oozes shallowness and emptiness when its used. "Hey jeddah I'll come to your party, will there be any hot girls there?" what does that even mean?! i see all my girl friends as hot in their own ways. So when a guy asks me that i don't even know how to respond. saying "She's hot" is that like saying "I'd tap that?"? cause thats how i interpret it in my mind. So does that mean " does she look like Jessica Alba?" Some people sugar coat it and say "will there be any cute girls there?" I honestly am sitting here thinking about all my girlfriends and how each of them are gorgeous and sexy in their own ways, but is that hot?
the other day i was visiting a friend's church where a young man was speaking about his soon departure on a mission for the LDS church to Brazil. He was talking about the blessings and experiences he would gain from this forthcoming adventure, he ended this thought by saying "and hopefully in return for my service i will get a really hot wife when i get back." what does that even mean? Why did i throw up in my mouth a little bit when he said it? Maybe its because it is such a shallow based on appearance type comment that i know i am excluded from the category of "hot", and i am reminded of this every time someone says it, causing the irritation.before my girlfriends wig out and type comments telling me other wise, i just want to say that honestly i am fully aware that even though i do not know the meaning of hot, i know i am not it.
I am learning that it feels like guys are more worried about hotness that girls are. correct me if i am wrong. I have met boys in my ancient and recent past who i know would take me out of the friend zone if i were only whatever this hot word means. Not that i would want to leave the friend zone with boys who are fixated on things like the H word anyway, but the frustration is there none the less. When i see guys, i don't automatically think "I'd tap that, a.k.a he's hot" boys aren't really cute or handsome till I've talked to them and I've observed if their hearts and minds and wit are sexy. Christian Bale is an exception. I don't know where this blog has taken me just now, but i would just like a definition of hot. to me it is a shallow and empty way to describe someone, but from what i have seen around me "hot" is so hot right now.
and now to copy wendy but on the zune instead of I pod
on the zune "Almost Lover" by a Fine Frenzy
2 comments:
I wrote a big comment here and then erased it because, as you know, I tend to just say whatever I think unfiltered and I worried that someone might read it not knowing me, and then use words like "shallow" and "empty" to describe me. I'd be happy to discuss this topic with you in a less public forum.
I hate when there were the older, badly aging boys in my singles ward that would only date "HOT" girls and had nothing to show for it. I think that the use "HOT" is only a reflection on the poor self asteem of the utterancer.
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