one of the guys

i have three brothers, so while growing up i watched more Gi joe than my little pony. I watched football and played hotwheels. because i was raised with a lot of boys in the house i am privledged to see with in the male circle of trust i guess. i have always had a lot of friends that are guys, i have many a times been the shoulder to cry on friend listening to their dating drama. these guy friends also always asked me to set them up with my friends. i dont know how i let these "just one of the guys" type friendships form, but i realized yet again this weekend that it isnt all that fun being considered one of the guys. In fact, i really dont like it at all. I accept and have no issue with being in the friend zone with these guys, obviously if that bothered me i wouldnt let myself be in the friend zone. But there have been a few times this past month where i have been hanging out in a co-ed setting where i've realized thats what most of the boys there think of me. And so being included in the guys circle of trust means i feel like i am unseen really, transparent even. like the fact that i am a girl has become invisible. you can have guy friends who still know you are a girl and treat you like one. They can tell you all about the girls they like, but then ask in return about my dating life, they get the door on occasion when we hang out, they watch their crudeness in front of me and so on. they tell me i look nice or notice a new hair cut. i dont think i am being picky really i mean the 3 boys i grew up with treat me like this now, with respect that i am a girl. ( as kids, whole other story) so why cant all guys? and for those of you who know me, there is nothing worse than making me feel invisible.